How To Stay Positive When Things Are Going Wrong
I feel like I’m at a bit of a crossroads at the moment. I’ve always suffered with low mood on and off and I tend to absorb any negativity around me like a sponge. Without going into detail, let’s just say theres been some negativity surrounding one particular part of my life over the last couple of weeks which, coupled with feeling as though I’m struggling to find a direction professionally, has been a recipe for disaster. I’m also unbelievably hard on myself which always makes any battle in my head 10x worse!
There are a few things that I turn to though when I feel this way.
This is something that’s really helped me in the past when I’ve been struggling with low mood. It’s as simple as writing a list of things that I’m grateful for in my life on the whole, trying to avoid any material things. I’m always surprised at how easy it is to come up with a list of things without having to think too hard. It helps put things into perspective. Like no matter what happens, I still have these things and these amazing people in my life which complete me.
I’m actually not huge on meditating! However, earlier in the year when I was feeling particularly anxious I downloaded the Headspace app and mediated every night for about a month (I even bought a monthly subscription after the 10 free days were up). It genuinely really helped me to clear my mind and relax. In the end I think I cancelled my subscription because it’s quite expensive and I’m trying to keep my outgoings low at the moment. But I’d download it again in a heartbeat if I started to feel my anxiety coming back. I actually still use the Headspace techniques sometimes now when I feel like I need to clear my mind. It’s been so useful.
I should probably take my own advice here because although I love to read, I hate starting new books! It’s bit like starting a new series on Netflix when you don’t quite know the characters or the plot yet and you’re trying to suss everything out. I’m far too impatient! Having said that though, for me reading a good book is pure escapism. It helps me take my mind off my worries.
Take a step back
Easier said than done I know, but when things go wrong I always think about what my mum says to me when I’m worried about something. She’ll say ‘Think about it, what does it really matter? You have your health, you’ve got clothes on your back, a roof over your head and you’ll never go hungry’ and she’s right. Some people might have the world but don’t have their health, then suddenly all of those things they’d been worried about before seem so insignificant. It’s easy to think that X happening is the be all and end all, but honestly my mum is right (mums are always right!). Although it might feel like it at the time, it’s not the end of the world.
Sometimes it pays to take the time out to think about things and put them into perspective. Life is extremely stressful these days with an unbelievable amount of pressure on people to do certain things or be a certain way. Whether it’s to have a career, buy a house, have a big savings fund or be popular on social media. It hurts my head just thinking about it! Whatever my mental battle might be at the time, I always try to revert back to these key pointers to help me restore some inner peace.
What do you do when you feel like things just aren’t going your way?