How exciting! I had my first guest article published last week. I wrote for a personality psychology website called Truity about how discovering my personality type (INFJ) has helped me gain a greater understanding of myself both personally and professionally. I’ve included a little excerpt below, but definitely go take a look at the full article.
Why Taking A Personality Test Was One Of The Best Things I Ever Did
I never thought I’d say that taking a personality test changed my life, but looking back I wish I had taken the test sooner.
I’m currently in my early to mid-twenties. Up until I left college I never questioned who I was or why I acted the way that I did. But as I’ve got older I’ve realized that a lot of people don’t really ‘get me.’ I’ve lost count of the times I’ve been told I come across antisocial or been asked why I’m ‘so quiet.’ This surprises me because until a couple of years ago I had no idea I came across this way.
You see, at work, I’m not the sort of person to wander to the other side of the office and spark up a conversation with a colleague unnecessarily. Some people think it’s because I’m shy or (worst of all) ignorant, but friends that know me well will tell you that this couldn’t be further from the truth. The fact is, I hate small talk. I don’t see the point in it and I genuinely have no interest in it.
Over the last couple of years I’ve had a number of people question the way I come across to others. Each comment chipping away at my self-confidence a little more. ‘You come across ignorant and rude’ I’ve been told. ‘Why are you so quiet? Are you shy?’ people have asked. ‘It’s like you think you’re better than everyone else’.
These words hurt. As far as I was concerned, I had always made an effort with everyone and I certainly wouldn’t dream of being deliberately rude to somebody. It wasn’t long before the constant judgment from others left me feeling self-conscious and anxious. I started to wonder if something was wrong with me. Keep reading.